How to make Peace with Imperfection

The need for perfection and the Desire for inner Tranquility is always an internal conflict of every Human beings. For this reason, I have never met or meet an absolute Perfectionist whose life was filled 100% inner Peace. When we are used to having something in a certain way,we highly assumed that, it is and it should be just that way, so when we see or experience something differently, then suddenly we are almost by definition, engage on losing battle.

Rather than being grateful and content what we have, and we are focused on what is wrong, which implies that we are dissatisfied and discontent. Why? because when things does not happen the way we think and want then definitely, it is not perfect and good enough for us.

Whether it related to ourselves, a disorganized closet, a mess up living room full of kids toys, a scratched on car, am imperfect accomplishments of a project from work place, a few pounds we would like to lose, or someone else’s imperfections the of the way someone looks or behaves or lives their life the very act of focusing on imperfections pulls us away from our goal of being kind and gentle.

This Strategy has nothing to do with ceasing to do your best but with being overly attached and focused on what is wrong with life. It’s about realizing that while there’s always a better way to do something, this doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy and appreciate the way things already are.

The solution is here to catch yourself when you fall into your habit on insisting that things should be should perfect than they are. Gently Remind yourself that life is okay the way it is. Right now. In the absence of your Judgement, everything would be fine. Well in reality, the way to understand that in any moment in time , our reality is based on whatever we focus on at any moment in time, whatever we focus on , that is what become most really to us As you begin to eliminate our need for perfection in all areas of your life, we will begin to discover the perfection in life itself within affection our inner peace

Why is Life is a Test? It only a Test.

Life is a test. It is only a test. If it wasn’t the fact that we are created by high powerful God, then each an individual would have decided the types of life styles they want without any law and order of where to go and what to do. Every human on this planet is created with a purpose that is under the Master plan and Divinely wisdom.

(“Allaze khalaqa almawta waalhayata libyabluwakum ayyukum ahsanu AAmalan wahuwa Al Azeezu Al-Ghafooru” “He who created Death and life, that He may test which of you is best in Deed: and He is the Exalted in Might, Oft-Forgiving”).(.Quran 67:2)

When we look at life, we can all come to agree that, life does comes with many challenges, difficulties, Adversity and so forth. When we begin to face life challenge, we should see it as an opportunity to help us grow. Whether we are being bombarded with problem, responsibilities, even insurmountable hurdles, we should physical,mentally and spiritual accept life as a test, so that we can put our effort as a chance to succeed, in a sense of rising above that challenges. As time goes by, our ultimate focus is to chase success and happiness, and the only way we can do that is when we sit and reflect and accept life as a test from the Divine Decree

so we should always believe and trust God when rising to pass our life test as we get older

As an experiment see if we can apply this ideas to something we are forces to deal with. Perhaps WE have a difficult teenager or a demanding boss. See if We can refine the issue we face from being a problem” to being a test. Rather than struggling with our issue, see if this is something we can learn from it. Let us learn to reflect and ask ourselves. ” why is this an issue in my life? what would it mean? and what would be involved to rise above it? could I see it as a test of some kind to pass and overcome the fears of failure.

If we give this strategy a try, we may be surprised at our change response. For example, I used to struggle to a great deal over the issue of my perception of not having enough time. I blamed my schedule, my family, and circumstance, and anything else I could think of my plight. Then it dawned on me. As time goes by I realize, if I wanted to be happy, my goal and focus necessarily have to be organize,prepare, and do the best I could to get everything done that I felt I must.. In other words, my real challenge was to see my struggle as a test and I need the focus to past my test.

Seeing life struggling as a test ultimately help me to cope with one of my biggest personal frustration. I still struggle now and then about my perceives lack of time, but at lest I have improve and feel little organize and prepare with my daily habit . It has become far more acceptable to me to accept things as they are. The following is my little daily prayer to nurture my spirituality


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Self-Awareness is the first component of Emotional intelligence which means knowing thyself enough to make the right decision at the right time not because you see it first but because you believe it before you see it. Self- Awareness means having a deep understanding of one’s Emotions, Strength, weakness, Needs, and Drives.. People with strong self Awareness are neither overly critical nor unrealistic hopeful, Rather, they are honest with themselves and with others. People who have a high degree of self -Awareness, do recognizes how their emotions effect their ups and downs moods.

Self- Awareness intelligence can be known from ones understanding of his/her values and goals. Someone who is highly self aware of who he /she is and where is headed to and why, so for example, a person with awareness intelligence, can or will be able to firm in turning down any job offer that is tempting financial but does not fit with his principle or long term goals. A person who lack self-awareness is apt to make decision that bring on inner turmoil by treading on buried values. Also a person with self awareness intelligence build their relationship with meaningfulness and purpose take their responsibility with sincerity and honesty regardless of the circumstance. The decision of Self-Awareness intelligence person match with with his/ her values; consequently, they often work to be energizing.

Such Self knowledge often show itself in all area of life such as financial, emotional, physical, social, Mental. Self Awareness Intelligence people will be frank in admitting their failure in the past and will often tell their tales with smile. One of the hallmarks of self- awareness is a self- deprecating sense of humor. People with low self esteem and awareness are lack of emotional intelligence and are not truthful to themselves and others around them and they like to fake and pretend always by playing different characters around people with behavior and dealings with family members And co-workers and strangers. Another person with high self Awareness will be able to work with a demanding Client. People with self Awareness know their actions affect others and other people can have and impact on their moods for this reasons they have a deep understanding of their anger and frustration. Self- Awareness Intelligence people work with deliberately with Confident, Integrity and Accountability. To BE CONTINUE IN THE NEXT POST

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How to understand Meaningful Marriage

How to get sunlight brightness in Marriage.

As usual, reading and Writing is one of my favorite hobbies, but sometime when I get distracted I still manage to read something small with less focus. Being consistent and practicing something you like and enjoy become a habit, so I try my best to keep up with positive habit to improve my well-being. Anyway I came and across something interesting in one of my reading and I decided to sharing thru my blog.

In order for a marriage to be real, it must first be base on Spiritual basis, It must be of the heart, the heart is the the Chalice of LoveHonestySincerity, and Integrity are also forms of Love. Each partner should be perfectly Honest and Sincere with each other. It’s not a true marriage when a man marries a woman for her Money, Social Position, or to Uplift his Ego, because this indicates a lack of SincerityHonesty and True Love. Such a marriage is a Farce , Sham, and a Masquerade.

When a woman says ” I am tired of working: I want to get married because I want security. Her premise is false . She is not using the law of her mind correctly. Her security depends upon her knowledge of the interaction of the conscious and subconscious minds and its application.

I find all of these statement to be true and interesting because I am a living example for that statement ( A woman is not depend on her husband for Health, Peace, joyInspiration, Guidance, Love, Wealth, Happiness or anything in the world). A man can contribute to a woman wellbeing but not the primary source of this priceless value of human treasure. Simple by understanding myself, depending on my Creator to Guide me, protected me and uplift my spirit to do the right things at the right. I am always in Good Mood, with Positive Mind, Positive Thought, Positive Attitude and Positive Vibe. What is the secret, Always have Contentment with what you have, Show Gratitude and you will be Grateful with everyone around you, and Strive Hard to reach your Highest Potential.

A word to a wise is always Enough..

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How Delicious Food can Help You Lose Weight, Balance Your Hormones, and Defeat Depression.

Eat to Reverse the Effects of Aging, Drink to Rejuvenate your Vein and Arteries, and Be Happy to keep your Brain Sharp for your Golden Year.

Blues Busters, 15 foods to lift Your Spirit.

# 3 Snack on Sardine for a clear Mind. These little Fish are loaded with Vitamin B-12. Which help your body manufacture the chemical that help carry messages between your Nerves and Brain. You can suffer memory loss, depression, and other mood disorder when you don’t have enough B-12. Women with low level of B-12 are twice as likely to develop severe depression. A recent study found that one in four seriously depressed women were B-12 deficient. Just 3 or 4 ounces of a sardines will more than satisfy your daily vitamin B-12 requirement. You will also get protein, Omega-3 fatty acids,calcium and vitamin D.

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#4 Boost your Brain with Baked Potato. Folate and B-12 aren’t the only B vitamin you need to keep your mind working right. High rate of depression are also linked to a lack of vitamin B-6 and thiamine. B-6 help balance certain brain chemicals, keeping your emotions on an even keel, and thiamine help nerve signal travel from your brain to other parts of your body. A baked potato is an ideal way to get these important nutrients along with others like vitamin C, iron, folate, niacin and potassium. Potatoes are naturally low in sodium, saturated fat, and cholesterol. Just don’t be tempted to load up with a lot of salt and rich toppings.

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Eat, Drink, and Be Happy. How Delicious Foods can help you lose Weight, Balance your Hormones, and defeat Depression. Eat to Reverse the effects of Aging, Drink to rejuvenate your Veins and Arteries! and be Happy to keep your Brain Sharp for your Golden Year!

Blue Busters, 15 Foods to lift your spirits

Eat to Reverse the effects of Aging, Drink to rejuvenate your Veins and Arteries! and be Happy to keep your Brain Sharp for your Golden Year!

Today i discover that folate pinto Bean is one of the food that can up lift your spirit and prevent one from depression.

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Experts know Depression get worse when you don’t have enough folate in your body, and your outlook is brighter when you get plenty of this important B Vitamin. A good way to keep your folate level up is to eat pinto beans, the most popular dried in the United states. They are among the best natural sources of sources of folate– a cup of pinto bean has almost 75 percent of the amount of what you need every day. This folate pinto beans also contain boosters — Magnesium and Thiamine.

2 Test tasty tips of Asparagus. Gardeners know one of the first signs of spring is the tender shoots of this delicious vegetable poking through the ground and this veggie bursts with folate as well. Scientist do not know the exactly why it help chase the blues away, but folate does help your body make serotonin, a neurotransmitter that produces feelings of Calmness and Contentment. Folate also work closely with vitamin B 12 to help you avoid Depression..

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What good is asparagus?1. It’s Loaded with Nutrients and Nutrition Benefits. Asparagus is a nutrient-packed vegetable. It is a very good source of fiber, folate, vitamins A, C, E and K, as well as chromium, a trace mineral that enhances the ability of insulin to transport glucose from the bloodstream into cells.


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How to believe and why Believe

As Human being, we should believe in something GREATER, Something big than ourselves, something powerful than our own imagination, Allah( God) the Creator of universe and the fashioner and Designer of Human Form, deserve all our credit of everything we see around us and within ourselves.

Why Believe, One of the most important habits we can develop is the habit of Faith. Regardless of our religious or spiritual beliefs. If we can observer and reflect, and come to the conclusion that most Great men and women are people of FAITH, to a higher degree, and that is how and why their dreams and goals come to be possible, even when mediocrity people think is impossible for the to accomplish and achieve the possibility. Examples are the prophet Mohamed( S.A. W), Gandhi, Mandela and many other leaders of the past and present achieve things with faith in the MOST HIGH AND MOST GREATER.


The habit of FAITH simple requires that we believe there is a HIGHER POWER, above us in the universe and that THE ALMIGHTY, want the very beat for us all as Human beings. The more faith we have the more confidences we will have in everything that is happening to us is part of a plan moving us inevitably toward something better, and that is why it take a strong faith with true believers to see the impossible becoming possible. Believe it or not the Unseen control the Seen.

There is more to come, concerning the issue of BELIEVE IN SOMETHING GREATER…Until then Peace and Love always from the GRATITUDEQUEEN