RAISE YOUR STANDARDS

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Any time you sincerely want to make a change, the first thing you must do is to raise your standards.  If you raise your standard but don’t really believe you can meet them, you ‘ve already sabotaged yourself, you won’t even try; you will be lacking that sense of certainty that allows you to reach the deepest capacity that within you.

Our beliefs are like the unquestioned command, telling us how things are, what is possible and what is impossible, what we can do and can not do. they shape every action, every thought and every feeling that we experience.  Changing our belief system is the central key to make any real and lasting change in our life. we must develop a sense of certainty that we can and will meet the new standards before we actually do it.

We need to take full control of our belief system when we raise our standard for a new change. it is the quality of our beliefs system which will lead us to our inner resources and enable us to meet the new challenges that we have committed ourselves. Behind any great success is the empowerment of a belief system.

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This picture illustrates the Positive and negative mindset when we are faced with new challenges to deal with.

Change your strategy:  In order to keep your commitment, you need an effective strategy to achieve your result. One of the cores of a belief system is that if you set a  higher standard, then you need to get yourself to believe it, then you can certainly figure out the best strategies that will work for your vision.  As long as you are on the mission, then simply find a way to make it.  Whatever you decide; You must take action. You can fine- tune to it, reshape and perhaps even make it better.

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Get curious to know who you truly are by challenging yourself to reach your full potential.

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Become More Patient

The Quality of patience  goes way toward our goal of creating a more Peaceful and Loving ourselves. The more Patient we are, the more accepting we will be of what is, rather than insisting that life should be exactly as we would want it to be. Without, patience, Life is extremely Frustrating. We are easily annoyed, bothered and irritated. Patience adds a dimension of ease and Acceptance to one’s life. Patience is essential for one’s inner peace.

Becoming more Patience involves opening one’s Heart to the present moment, even if you don’t like it. If you  are stuck in a traffic jam, late for an appointment, opening to the moment would mean catching yourself building a mental snowball before your thinking got out of hand and gently reminding yourself to relax. It might also be a good time to breath as well as an opportunity to remind yourself that, in the bigger scheme of things being late is ” small stuff“.

Patience also involve seeing the innocence in others.

Anytime we feel irritated, we should hold ourselves back, try to eliminate any negative thoughts that may come rushing, and reminded once again of how fortunate we are to be Alive . I have found that, if you look deeply enough , you can also see Innocence in other people as well as in Potential Frustration Situation . when you do you will become a more more Patience and Peaceful Person, and in some strange way, you begin to enjoy many of the moments that used to Frustrate you.

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Choose Your Battle Wisely!

Choose your battle wisely is a popular phrase in parenting, but is equally important in living a content life. It suggests that life is filled with series of opportunities to choose from. Making a big deal out of something or simply letting it go, most especially when you realize it doesn’t really matter. If you choose your battle wisely, you will be far more effective in winning those that are truly important to you.

Certainly, there will be times, when you will want or need to argue, scream so loud, or even fight for something you believe in. Many people however, argue, confront, fight over practically anything, turning their lives into a series of battle over relatively ” Small Stuff.” There is so much frustration in living these types of life, and it becomes a habit for you to fight and argue over every small thing that you lose track of.

The tiniest disagreement or glitch in our plans can be made into a big deal if our goal (either conscious or unconscious) is to have everything work out our favorites. The truth in life is rarely exactly the way we want it to be and other people often don’t act as we would like them to. Moment to moment, there are always going to be people who disagree with us, people who do things differently, and things that don’t work out. If you fight against this principle of life, you will spend most of your life fighting battle.

A more peaceful way to live life is to decide consciously which battle is worth fighting and which ones are better left alone. If your primary goal isn’t to have everything work out perfectly, but instead to live a relatively stress-free life. You should find ways and means of what kind of battle to pull yourself away from and that can lead to the most tranquil feelings because you do not want to ” Sweat the Small Stuff energy out of you” it’s critical that you choose your battle wisely. If you do, there would come a day when you will rarely feel the need for the battle at all.

Is it really important that you are right and she is wrong? Or that you confront some one simple because it appears as though he or she has made a minor mistake? Does your preference of which restaurant or movie to go to matter enough to argue over ? Does a small scratch on your car really warrant a suit in small claim court? Does the fact that your neighbor won’t park his car on different part of the street have to be discussed at your family dinner table?

These and thousands of other small things are what many people spend their lives fighting about. Take a look at your own list. If you are used to being like that or do things in that manner, then you may want to reevaluate your priorities. These are battles that if we face every day but if not careful and choose our battle wisely, then we would lose our inner Strength and Peace. So, CHOOSE YOUR BATTLE WISELY in every decision you make every single day.

Peace!

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Learn to Live in the Present Moment.

Do not dwell in the past. Do not dream of the future. Concentrate the mind on the present moment.

  • Buddha

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So many of us live our lives as if the secret purpose is to somehow get everything done in the future and not the present. Some people stay up late; some get up early; some even avoid having fun, and keep loved ones waiting to care and love at the present moment.

We should learn to live in the present moment to a large extent by understanding that our peace of mind is determined by how active and productive we make out of it.

It is very sad to see some people who put off their loved ones so long that their loved ones lose interest in maintaining the relationship. Sincerely, I used to be guilty of this myself. Irrespective of what happened yesterday or last year, or what may not happen even tomorrow; we tend to convince ourselves that our obsession with our “to do list” is only temporal; that once we get through that, we would be calm relaxed and happy, but in reality, this rarely happens.

Without a question, many of us have mastered the neurotic art of spending much of our lives worrying about a variety of all things. Listen up! This actually happens when we allow our past problems (issues) and future concerns dominate our Present Moments so much that we end up being anxious, frustrated, depressed and hopeless.

On the flip side, we also postpone our gratification, our priorities and happiness; often convincing ourselves that someday will be better than today. Unfortunately, the same mental dynamics that tell us to look toward the future will only repeat themselves, so that someday never arrives.

Hey! That someday is now, and it can be done by building positive habits in all the areas of your life.

Trust me, Life is what’s happening while we’re busy making other plans. While our children are growing, the people we love are moving away and dying; our bodies are getting out of shape; our dreams are slipping away; these are some few things that if we are not subconscious of, we would be missing out in life.

Many people live as if life is a dress rehearsal for some later date. Nope, It isn’t supposed to be ! In fact, no one is guaranteed that he or she will be here tomorrow. Now is the only time we have, and the only time we have any control over.

The global health crisis, CoviD-19 makes that life experience clear, especially for those that have been heavily affected, such as losing their loved ones to the pandemic.

When our attention is in the Present Moment, we push fear from our minds. Fear is the concern over events that might happen in the future– we wont have enough money; our children will get into trouble, we will get old and die; whatever be the case of life current situation, we need to leave a balance life, with preparations. And the only way we can do that is by feeding our faith with hope and starving our fear by taking actions to get things done in the current happenings.

Peace!

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WHY FEAR?

One of the major reasons so many of us remain horrid frightened, competitive, and continue to live life as if it were a giant emergency is because of our fear, which we often times, refuse to control. Thereby, caving in for it to control us.

Living in fear will not allow us to become more peaceful and loving toward our own self or others. Fear is an emotional feeling of its own, and it can stop us from achieving our already outlined goals. Remember! It’s also responsible for dragging one to being lazy and apathetic.

Fearful, frantic thinking take an enormous amount of energy and drains the creativity and motivation from our lives. When we become fearful or frantic, we literally Immobilize Ourselves from our greatest potentials, not to mention enjoyment. Please, be aware that any success that we do have is despite our fear, not because of it.

A powerful technique for becoming more peaceful is to be aware of how quickly your negative and insecure thinking can spiral out of control. Have you ever noticed how uptight you feel when your are caught up in your thinking? You will feel absorbed in the detail of whatever is upsetting you, right? Yes! That’s actually one of the worst you feel. One thought leads to another, until at some point, you become incredibly agitated.

For example, you might wake up in the middle of the night and remember a phone call that should be put through someone the following day. Then, rather than feeling relieved that you remembered such an important call, you start thinking about everything else you have to do that same tomorrow. You start rehearsing a probable conversation with someone in your head while the person is not there, that is a waste of your time, energy and creativity. why because, at that moment, the person is not there, but you are, so you can use that time to focus on yourself by reflecting, meditating, reading or visualizing about what you want in life and not what others want, or what you expect they want from you.

In order to get what you want, you need to build your self image and go out to service others, so don’t be agitated when serving others; it could be a family member or stranger; that is how you attract your own success and be a blessing for other people with your love and kindness.

The quarantine period has put many of us in a spot of fear, but we have to truly decide if we really want our fear to control our reality or we want to take control of our fear and decide what direction we want to move toward the unknown Future.

One of the things I learn from this current situation is that, if  you discipline your mind and time wisely with the right strategy, you will not be disappointed about your future lifestyle’s outcome.

Let’s learn to steer clear of our fears and focus more on greater things to come.

Peace!

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HOW TO MAKE PEACE WITH IMPERFECTION.

The need for perfection and the desire for inner tranquility is always an internal conflict of every human being. For this reason, I have never met, and will never meet an absolute Perfectionist, whose life is filled with a 100% inner peace. When we are used to having something in a certain way,we highly assume that it is, and it should be just that way; so when we see or experience something differently, then we suddenly are almost by definition, engage on losing the battle.

Rather than being grateful for, and contented with what we have, and we are focused on what is wrong, which implies that we are dissatisfied and discontent. Why? because when things do not happen the way we think and want, then definitely, it is not perfect and good enough for us.

Whether it is related to ourselves, a disorganized closet; a mess up living room full of kids toys, a scratch on car, an imperfect accomplishments of a project from work place, a few pounds we would like to lose, or someone else’s imperfections; the way someone looks or behaves or lives his or her life. The very act of focusing on imperfections pulls us away from our goal of being kind and gentle.

This Strategy has nothing to do with ceasing to do your best, but with being overly attached and focused on what is wrong with life. It’s about realizing that while there’s always a better way to do something, this doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy and appreciate the way things already are.

The solution here is to catch yourself when you fall into your habit on insisting that things should be perfect than they are. Gently Remind yourself that life is okay the way it is, right now.

In the absence of your Judgement, everything would be fine. Well in reality, we’re based on whatever we focus on at any moment in time. Whatever we focus on , that is what becomes most real to us.

As we begin to eliminate our need for perfection in all areas of our life, we will begin to discover the perfection in life itself within the affection of our inner peace.

Regards!

Why is Life a Test? It is only a Test!

Life is a test. It is only a test. If we weren’t created by the Almighty, then every individual would have decided the kind of lifestyle they want, without any law and order of where to go and what to do. Every human on this planet has been bestowed upon, a purpose that is under the master plan and divine wisdom.

It is also a fact that is clearly stated in the holy book of the muslims:

(“Allazee khalaqal mawta waalhayata liyabluwakum ayyukum ahsanu Aamalan wahuwa Al Azeezu Al-Ghafooru”

This is carefully translated to mean: “He who created Death and life, that He may test which of you is best in Deed: and He is the Exalted in Might, Oft-Forgiving”).(.Quran 67:2)

When we look at life, we can all come to agree that, life does come with many challenges, difficulties, and other adversities that may seem to end one’s life. But when we begin to face this kind of menaces, we should only reason them from a totally different perspective; let’s view them as an opportunity to help us grow. Whether we are being bombarded with problems, responsibilities, even insurmountable hurdles, we should physically, mentally and spiritually accept life as a test, so that we can put our effort as a chance to succeed, in a sense of rising above those challenges.

As time strolls by, our ultimate focus would be to chase success and happiness, and the only way we can do that is when we sit to reflect and accept life as a test from the Divine Decree.

so we should always believe and trust God when rising to pass our life test as we get older

As an experiment, let’s see if we could apply these ideas to something we are probably forced to deal with on a daily basis; Perhaps, WE have a difficult teenager, or a demanding boss. See if we can refine the issue we face from being a problem to being a test, rather than struggling with our issue, see if this is something we can learn from. Let’s just learn to reflect and ask ourselves. ” why is this an issue in my life? what would it mean? And what would be involved to rise above it? Could I see it as a test of some kind to pass, and overcome the fears of failure?

If we give this strategy a try, we may be surprised at our change in response. For example, I used to struggle to a great deal over the issue of my perception of not having enough time. I blamed my schedule, my family, and circumstances, and anything else I could think of in my plight. Then it dawned on me as time goes on that if I wanted to be happy, my goal and focus necessarily have to be organized, prepared, and do the best I could to get everything I felt I must get done… In other words, my real challenge was to see my struggle as a test, and I needed the focus to past my test.

Seeing life struggles as tests ultimately helps me to cope with one of my biggest personal frustration. I still struggle now and then about my perceived lack of time, but at least, I have improved, and greatly feel a little bit organized, and deem prepared with my daily habit . And It has become far more acceptable to me to accept things as they are, rather than always nagging myself.

The following is my little daily prayer to nurture my spirituality:

MY CREATOR, WHETHER OR NOT MY LIFE STRUGGLES TURN AROUND, I KNOW YOU ARE STILL MY CREATOR, AND I AM IN THIS WORLD TO SERVE A PURPOSE, SO PLEASE HELP ME OVERCOME MY LIFE TEST. I WANT TO THANK YOU MY CREATOR, BECAUSE I KNOW I NEED YOU IN SO MANY WAYS THAT I CAN’T EVEN IMAGINE, BUT PLEASE ALWAYS GUIDE, PROTECT AND FORGIVE MY SHORTCOMINGS. ” AMEEN.

Peace!

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WHAT DO SELF-AWARENESS AND SELF-ESTEEM MEAN?

Self-awareness is the first component of Emotional intelligence. Which means knowing thyself enough to make the right decision at the right time, not because you see it first, but because you believe it before you see it. It also means having a deep understanding of one’s emotions, strengths, weaknesses, needs, and drives.

People with strong self-awareness are neither overly critical nor unrealistically hopeful, rather, they are honest with themselves and with those around them.

Those with high degree of self-awareness do recognize how their emotions affect their ups and downs.

So, this value – self-awareness Intelligence, can be known from one’s understanding of his or her own values and goals. This births one to know who he or she is, and where s/he is headed to, and why so. For example, a person with awareness intelligence, can, or will be able to stand firmly in turning down any job offer that is tempting financially, but does not fit with his or her principle or long term goals. A person who lacks self-awareness is apt to make decisions that bring on inner turmoil by treading on buried values. Also, a person with this valuable, builds their relationship with meaningfulness and purposefulness; takes their responsibility with sincerity and honesty, regardless of the circumstances.

The decision of a Self-aware person matches with his or her values; consequently, they often work to be energizing.

Such Self knowledge often shows itself in all areas of life, such as financially, emotionally physically, socially and even mentally.

Those who are self-aware will be frank in admitting their failures in the past, and will often tell their tales with smile. One of the hallmarks of self- awareness is a self- deprecating sense of humor. People with low self-esteem and awareness usually lack emotional intelligence and are not always truthful to themselves and others around them, and they like to fake and pretend always by playing different characters around different people.

Also, an individual with a reasonable degree of self-awareness will be able to work with a demanding client. The fact is, people with self-awareness know their actions affect others, and other people can have and impact on their moods. For this reasons, they have a deep understanding of their anger and frustration.

To be honest, those who are aware of themselves work with confidence, integrity and accountability.

TO BE CONTINUED IN THE NEXT POST!

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HOW TO UNDERSTAND A MEANINGFUL MARRIAGE.

How to get sunlight brightness in Marriage.

As usual, reading and writing are some of my favorite hobbies, but sometimes when I get distracted, I still manage to read through some pages with less focus. Being consistent and practising something you like and enjoy become a habit, so I try my best possible to keep up with positive habit to improve my well-being. Anyway, I came across something interesting in one of my readings, and I felt it would be cool to share through my blog.

In order for a marriage to be successful, it must first be based on spiritual basis; it must be of the heart. The heart is the the Chalice of love, honestySincerity, and Integrity.

Both partners should be perfectly honest and Sincere with each other. It’s not yet a true marriage when a man marries a woman for her money, social status, or to uplift his own  ego, because all of these indicate a lack of sincerityhonesty and unflinching love. Such a marriage can be catagorically be grouped as a farce, sham, and, or a masquerade.

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When a woman says ” I am tired of working: I want to get married because I want security. Her premise is false . She is not using the law of her mind correctly. Her security depends upon her knowledge of the interaction of the conscious and subconscious minds and its application.

I find all of these statements to be true and interesting, because I am a living example of that statement, and I know it may sound controversial, but it’s the fact. ( A woman is not to depend on her husband for health, peace, joyinspiration, guidance, love, wealth, happiness or anything in the world). A man can contribute to a woman’s well-being, but not usually the primary source of this priceless value of human treasure.

Simply by understanding myself depending on my creator to guide and protect me, and uplift my spirit to do the right things at the right time. I am always in good mood with a mind full of positivities, positive attitudes and positive vibes. What is the secret? Always be contented with whatsoever you have. Always express gratitude and you will be grateful for everyone around you, and strive hard to reach your highest potential.

Trust me, you’re unstoppable!

A word to a wise is always Enough..


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How Delicious Food can Help You Lose Weight, Balance Your Hormones, and Defeat Depression.

Eat to Reverse the Effects of Aging, Drink to Rejuvenate your Vein and Arteries, and Be Happy to keep your Brain Sharp for your Golden Year.

Blues Busters, 15 foods to lift Your Spirit.

# 3 Snack on Sardine for a clear Mind. These little Fish are loaded with Vitamin B-12 which helps your body manufacture the chemical that helps carry messages between your nerves and brain. You can suffer memory loss, depression, and other mood disorder when you don’t have enough B-12. Women with low level of B-12 are twice as likely to develop severe depression. A recent study found that one in four seriously depressed women were B-12 deficient. Just 3 or 4 ounces of sardines will more than satisfy your daily vitamin B-12 requirement. You will also get protein, Omega-3 fatty acids,calcium and vitamin D.

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#4 Boost your Brain with Baked Potato. Folate and B-12 aren’t the only B-vitamin you need to keep your mind working right. High rate of depression are also linked to a lack of vitamin B-6 and thiamine. B-6 helps balance certain brain chemicals, keeping your emotions on an even keel, and thiamine helps nerve signal travel from your brain to other parts of your body. A baked potato is an ideal way to get these important nutrients along with others like vitamin C, iron, folate, niacin and potassium. Potatoes are naturally low in sodium, saturated fat, and cholesterol. Just don’t be tempted to load up with a lot of salt and rich toppings.

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