One of the major reasons so many of us remain horrid frightened, competitive, and continue to live life as if it were a giant emergency is because of our fear, which we often times, refuse to control. Thereby, caving in for it to control us.

Living in fear will not allow us to become more peaceful and loving toward our own self or others. Fear is an emotional feeling of its own, and it can stop us from achieving our already outlined goals. Remember! It’s also responsible for dragging one to being lazy and apathetic.

Fearful, frantic thinking take an enormous amount of energy and drains the creativity and motivation from our lives. When we become fearful or frantic, we literally Immobilize Ourselves from our greatest potentials, not to mention enjoyment. Please, be aware that any success that we do have is despite our fear, not because of it.

A powerful technique for becoming more peaceful is to be aware of how quickly your negative and insecure thinking can spiral out of control. Have you ever noticed how uptight you feel when your are caught up in your thinking? You will feel absorbed in the detail of whatever is upsetting you, right? Yes! That’s actually one of the worst you feel. One thought leads to another, until at some point, you become incredibly agitated.

For example, you might wake up in the middle of the night and remember a phone call that should be put through someone the following day. Then, rather than feeling relieved that you remembered such an important call, you start thinking about everything else you have to do that same tomorrow. You start rehearsing a probable conversation with someone in your head while the person is not there, that is a waste of your time, energy and creativity. why because, at that moment, the person is not there, but you are, so you can use that time to focus on yourself by reflecting, meditating, reading or visualizing about what you want in life and not what others want, or what you expect they want from you.

In order to get what you want, you need to build your self image and go out to service others, so don’t be agitated when serving others; it could be a family member or stranger; that is how you attract your own success and be a blessing for other people with your love and kindness.

The quarantine period has put many of us in a spot of fear, but we have to truly decide if we really want our fear to control our reality or we want to take control of our fear and decide what direction we want to move toward the unknown Future.

One of the things I learn from this current situation is that, if  you discipline your mind and time wisely with the right strategy, you will not be disappointed about your future lifestyle’s outcome.

Let’s learn to steer clear of our fears and focus more on greater things to come.




The need for perfection and the desire for inner tranquility is always an internal conflict of every human being. For this reason, I have never met, and will never meet an absolute Perfectionist, whose life is filled with a 100% inner peace. When we are used to having something in a certain way,we highly assume that it is, and it should be just that way; so when we see or experience something differently, then we suddenly are almost by definition, engage on losing the battle.

Rather than being grateful for, and contented with what we have, and we are focused on what is wrong, which implies that we are dissatisfied and discontent. Why? because when things do not happen the way we think and want, then definitely, it is not perfect and good enough for us.

Whether it is related to ourselves, a disorganized closet; a mess up living room full of kids toys, a scratch on car, an imperfect accomplishments of a project from work place, a few pounds we would like to lose, or someone else’s imperfections; the way someone looks or behaves or lives his or her life. The very act of focusing on imperfections pulls us away from our goal of being kind and gentle.

This Strategy has nothing to do with ceasing to do your best, but with being overly attached and focused on what is wrong with life. It’s about realizing that while there’s always a better way to do something, this doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy and appreciate the way things already are.

The solution here is to catch yourself when you fall into your habit on insisting that things should be perfect than they are. Gently Remind yourself that life is okay the way it is, right now.

In the absence of your Judgement, everything would be fine. Well in reality, we’re based on whatever we focus on at any moment in time. Whatever we focus on , that is what becomes most real to us.

As we begin to eliminate our need for perfection in all areas of our life, we will begin to discover the perfection in life itself within the affection of our inner peace.


Why is Life a Test? It is only a Test!

Life is a test. It is only a test. If we weren’t created by the Almighty, then every individual would have decided the kind of lifestyle they want, without any law and order of where to go and what to do. Every human on this planet has been bestowed upon, a purpose that is under the master plan and divine wisdom.

It is also a fact that is clearly stated in the holy book of the muslims:

(“Allazee khalaqal mawta waalhayata liyabluwakum ayyukum ahsanu Aamalan wahuwa Al Azeezu Al-Ghafooru”

This is carefully translated to mean: “He who created Death and life, that He may test which of you is best in Deed: and He is the Exalted in Might, Oft-Forgiving”).(.Quran 67:2)

When we look at life, we can all come to agree that, life does come with many challenges, difficulties, and other adversities that may seem to end one’s life. But when we begin to face this kind of menaces, we should only reason them from a totally different perspective; let’s view them as an opportunity to help us grow. Whether we are being bombarded with problems, responsibilities, even insurmountable hurdles, we should physically, mentally and spiritually accept life as a test, so that we can put our effort as a chance to succeed, in a sense of rising above those challenges.

As time strolls by, our ultimate focus would be to chase success and happiness, and the only way we can do that is when we sit to reflect and accept life as a test from the Divine Decree.

so we should always believe and trust God when rising to pass our life test as we get older

As an experiment, let’s see if we could apply these ideas to something we are probably forced to deal with on a daily basis; Perhaps, WE have a difficult teenager, or a demanding boss. See if we can refine the issue we face from being a problem to being a test, rather than struggling with our issue, see if this is something we can learn from. Let’s just learn to reflect and ask ourselves. ” why is this an issue in my life? what would it mean? And what would be involved to rise above it? Could I see it as a test of some kind to pass, and overcome the fears of failure?

If we give this strategy a try, we may be surprised at our change in response. For example, I used to struggle to a great deal over the issue of my perception of not having enough time. I blamed my schedule, my family, and circumstances, and anything else I could think of in my plight. Then it dawned on me as time goes on that if I wanted to be happy, my goal and focus necessarily have to be organized, prepared, and do the best I could to get everything I felt I must get done… In other words, my real challenge was to see my struggle as a test, and I needed the focus to past my test.

Seeing life struggles as tests ultimately helps me to cope with one of my biggest personal frustration. I still struggle now and then about my perceived lack of time, but at least, I have improved, and greatly feel a little bit organized, and deem prepared with my daily habit . And It has become far more acceptable to me to accept things as they are, rather than always nagging myself.

The following is my little daily prayer to nurture my spirituality:



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Self-awareness is the first component of Emotional intelligence. Which means knowing thyself enough to make the right decision at the right time, not because you see it first, but because you believe it before you see it. It also means having a deep understanding of one’s emotions, strengths, weaknesses, needs, and drives.

People with strong self-awareness are neither overly critical nor unrealistically hopeful, rather, they are honest with themselves and with those around them.

Those with high degree of self-awareness do recognize how their emotions affect their ups and downs.

So, this value – self-awareness Intelligence, can be known from one’s understanding of his or her own values and goals. This births one to know who he or she is, and where s/he is headed to, and why so. For example, a person with awareness intelligence, can, or will be able to stand firmly in turning down any job offer that is tempting financially, but does not fit with his or her principle or long term goals. A person who lacks self-awareness is apt to make decisions that bring on inner turmoil by treading on buried values. Also, a person with this valuable, builds their relationship with meaningfulness and purposefulness; takes their responsibility with sincerity and honesty, regardless of the circumstances.

The decision of a Self-aware person matches with his or her values; consequently, they often work to be energizing.

Such Self knowledge often shows itself in all areas of life, such as financially, emotionally physically, socially and even mentally.

Those who are self-aware will be frank in admitting their failures in the past, and will often tell their tales with smile. One of the hallmarks of self- awareness is a self- deprecating sense of humor. People with low self-esteem and awareness usually lack emotional intelligence and are not always truthful to themselves and others around them, and they like to fake and pretend always by playing different characters around different people.

Also, an individual with a reasonable degree of self-awareness will be able to work with a demanding client. The fact is, people with self-awareness know their actions affect others, and other people can have and impact on their moods. For this reasons, they have a deep understanding of their anger and frustration.

To be honest, those who are aware of themselves work with confidence, integrity and accountability.


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How to get sunlight brightness in Marriage.

As usual, reading and writing are some of my favorite hobbies, but sometimes when I get distracted, I still manage to read through some pages with less focus. Being consistent and practising something you like and enjoy become a habit, so I try my best possible to keep up with positive habit to improve my well-being. Anyway, I came across something interesting in one of my readings, and I felt it would be cool to share through my blog.

In order for a marriage to be successful, it must first be based on spiritual basis; it must be of the heart. The heart is the the Chalice of love, honestySincerity, and Integrity.

Both partners should be perfectly honest and Sincere with each other. It’s not yet a true marriage when a man marries a woman for her money, social status, or to uplift his own  ego, because all of these indicate a lack of sincerityhonesty and unflinching love. Such a marriage can be catagorically be grouped as a farce, sham, and, or a masquerade.

Let’s just have a quick look at the attached images below:

When a woman says ” I am tired of working: I want to get married because I want security. Her premise is false . She is not using the law of her mind correctly. Her security depends upon her knowledge of the interaction of the conscious and subconscious minds and its application.

I find all of these statements to be true and interesting, because I am a living example of that statement, and I know it may sound controversial, but it’s the fact. ( A woman is not to depend on her husband for health, peace, joyinspiration, guidance, love, wealth, happiness or anything in the world). A man can contribute to a woman’s well-being, but not usually the primary source of this priceless value of human treasure.

Simply by understanding myself depending on my creator to guide and protect me, and uplift my spirit to do the right things at the right time. I am always in good mood with a mind full of positivities, positive attitudes and positive vibes. What is the secret? Always be contented with whatsoever you have. Always express gratitude and you will be grateful for everyone around you, and strive hard to reach your highest potential.

Trust me, you’re unstoppable!

A word to a wise is always Enough..

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How Delicious Food can Help You Lose Weight, Balance Your Hormones, and Defeat Depression.

Eat to Reverse the Effects of Aging, Drink to Rejuvenate your Vein and Arteries, and Be Happy to keep your Brain Sharp for your Golden Year.

Blues Busters, 15 foods to lift Your Spirit.

# 3 Snack on Sardine for a clear Mind. These little Fish are loaded with Vitamin B-12 which helps your body manufacture the chemical that helps carry messages between your nerves and brain. You can suffer memory loss, depression, and other mood disorder when you don’t have enough B-12. Women with low level of B-12 are twice as likely to develop severe depression. A recent study found that one in four seriously depressed women were B-12 deficient. Just 3 or 4 ounces of sardines will more than satisfy your daily vitamin B-12 requirement. You will also get protein, Omega-3 fatty acids,calcium and vitamin D.

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#4 Boost your Brain with Baked Potato. Folate and B-12 aren’t the only B-vitamin you need to keep your mind working right. High rate of depression are also linked to a lack of vitamin B-6 and thiamine. B-6 helps balance certain brain chemicals, keeping your emotions on an even keel, and thiamine helps nerve signal travel from your brain to other parts of your body. A baked potato is an ideal way to get these important nutrients along with others like vitamin C, iron, folate, niacin and potassium. Potatoes are naturally low in sodium, saturated fat, and cholesterol. Just don’t be tempted to load up with a lot of salt and rich toppings.

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Here’s how some delicious foods can help you lose weight, balance your hormones, and defeat depression. Eat to Reverse the effects of aging; drink to rejuvenate your veins and arteries. And be happy to keep your brain sharp for your golden year!

Blue Busters, 15 Foods to lift your spirits

Today I discovered that folate pinto bean is one of the food that can uplift your spirit and prevent one from depression.

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Experts know that depression gets worse when you don’t have enough folate in your body, and your outlook is brighter when you get plenty of this important B Vitamin. A good way to keep your folate level up is to eat pinto beans, the most popular dried beans in the United states. They are among the best natural sources of folate– a cup of pinto beans has almost 75 percent of the amount of what you need every day. This folate pinto beans also contain boosters — Magnesium and Thiamine.

2 Test tasty tips of Asparagus. Gardeners know one of the first signs of spring is the tender shoots of this delicious vegetable poking through the ground, and this veggie bursts with folate as well. Scientists do not know exactly why it helps chase the blues away, but folate does help your body make serotonin, a neurotransmitter that produces feelings of calmness and contentment.

Folate also works closely with vitamin B 12 to help you avoid depression..

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What good is Asparagus?

1. It’s loaded with nutrients and nutritional benefits. Asparagus is a nutrient-packed vegetable. It is a very good source of fiber, folate, vitamins A, C, E and K, as well as chromium, a trace mineral that enhances the ability of insulin to transport glucose from the bloodstream into cells.


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“What distinguishes the majority of men from the few is their ability to act according to their beliefs.” 

  • Henry Miller


As humans, we should believe in something greater, Something bigger than ourselves; something more  powerful than our own imagination. No doubt, Allah (God), the Creator of the universe and the Fashioner and Designer of the  human form, deserves all our credits for everything we see around, and within us. 

Why Believe?

One of the most important habits we can always develop is the habit of Faith. Regardless of our religious or spiritual beliefs, we can ever observe or reflect, and come to the conclusion that most great men and women are people of FAITH, to a higher degree, and that is how and why their dreams and goals come to be possible, even when mediocres think it’s impossible for them to accomplish and achieve the possibilities. Among the thousands of examples are the Prophet Mohammad( S.A.W), Gandhi, Mandela, and many other (exceptional) leaders of the past and present, who achieved  things with an existing space  (in their hearts) for trust – belief or faith in the Most High. 


The habit of FAITH simply requires that we believe there is a HIGHER POWER, above us in the universe and that THE ALMIGHTY wants the very best for us all as human being.

The more faith we have, the more confidence we will have in everything that is happening to us; believing that it is part of a plan moving us inevitably toward something better, and that is why it takes a strong faith with a true believer to see some  things tagged  impossible becoming possible. Believe it or not, the Unseen controls the Seen.

As Mahatma Gandhi once said; 

“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I shall have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it, even if I may not have it at the beginning.”

There is more to come, concerning the issue of BELIEF IN SOMETHING GREATER. Till then…

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I grew up believing I was a good Listener. Although I have become a better listener than I was ten years ago. I have to admit I’m still only adequate Listener. As I became older, I realized that effective listening is more than simply avoiding my annoying cousin.

Another thing I discovered about the effective listening is the bad habit of interrupting others while they are speaking or not allowing them to finish their sentences. The entire thought of listening to someone and waiting patiently to find the content of of someone talk is something I can not afford to understand fully or be contented with. For example, there was a day I was in a cafeteria having lunch, eavesdropping on the conversations of those around me.

It seemed to me that, most of us have problem of how to communicate and listen effectively. Our attention span is becoming less and our distraction is increasing with technology. Due to that, we are are having hard time listening to one another;

Since then, I began to reflect and read more books about effective communication on how to slow down responses and become a better Listener. Believe it or not, it made me to become more peaceful person as time goes by. I also notice that it takes an enormous amount of energy, and also very stressful to be sitting in front of someone who I have no interest in listening to, but I still do it out of respect for a fellow human being.

In some ways, the way we fail to listen is symbolic to the way we live. We often treat communication as if it were a race. It’s almost like our goal is to have no time gaps between the conclusion of the sentence of of the person we are speaking with and the beginning of our own. So let us try to change our listening habit so that other people can feel comfortable opening up to us about anything that can be beneficial. By practicing good listening habit, people will feel safe in slowing down their own responses, because they won’t feel in competition with you for airtime.


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Reflecting on Reflection

Indeed a man  should reflect deeply over God’ s creation.

Even within a man physically and physiologically perfection is indeed a sign of Reflection of God constitutes without any blue print but rather from Divine Wisdom and Knowledge( Allah) All Wise, All knower of the seen and unseen .

A reflection should prompt every human being to show his / her genuine Gratitude, deep respect and real love to the One and Only Creator, ( Allah) His majesty, magnificent and Gracious Lord, who bless and create every human being in such a fashionable forms, perfect, upright and miraculous way of seeing light and knowing beauty from His inspiration.

Remember the True One ( God) and His action of management over all His creations. Reflect on His Mastership and Greatness.


So behold let a man considering his origin and what has become of him, for sure anyone who thinks and reflect develop his/ her foresight and Vision from the Creator of Heaven and Earth 🌎.


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